YOUR EX IS NOT YOUR DELIVERER
I just read a text from Charles Spurgeon and this small text however so powerful was pointing this very interesting question: Why do we always run away from God when we need help?
After all, I ask you the same question girls.
Why do we run to this person or that person for help when we go through trials and difficult situations? Or why do we seat and start planning ourselves what would bring us out of despair when we have a God who is able? Why do we always expect our loved ones to save us when in the Bible we have clear love letters from God telling us that Jesus came to save us?
This is a question that I admit I asked myself recently.
When I was in a relationship with my ex fiancé, I remember myself running always to him for advises, help, hugs, listening or even for him to handle my bad moods while Jesus was here and was telling me: “Sweetie, come to me! Don’t you understand that all what you ask your fiancé is too much for him to bear? He-is-not-me.”
But why then? Why this continual habit?
Well, I think that after 10 months of singleness that followed our broken engagement and an obvious need of answer, I got this revelation from God:
We do not know Jesus for who He is.
Is that really a surprising revelation for you? Come on, you will tell me that you indeed know Christ since you are born as you have grown up in a Christian family. But girls, knowing Christ because our parents are Christians and because we open our bible sometimes, and knowing Christ because of personal experiences with Him are 2 different things.
Let me explain by sharing a little more about my own experience. I am born in a Christian family and since my young age, I developed such a love for Jesus. However, I was legalist. I only perfectly knew about His laws but never understood His grace. Very often, it is the way satan wants us to grow in our relationship with God by feeling ourselves condemned; seeing God as an authoritarian Dad and not a Dad of grace. Maybe also because I, myself, had an authoritarian dad who deeply loved me but exercised his authority sometime in a wrong way.
Starting from there, I can tell you that it was hard for me to see God as well as Jesus to be a trustful God I could run to, in time of despair. Simply because I saw His authority, but never saw the grace giver and lover and hugger He can be.
Now you get it better, right? We learn about Jesus, but we don’t know Him deeply. We love Him but we don’t press on in His Word with persistence and thirst of discovery of his great friendship and love for us.
And as we don’t know Him as a trustable God, we end up automatically running to the only one we desperately love and trust: our loved one.
Girls, I am not here to make the judgment of my ex fiancé but can you see the picture? I trusted him completely however, it is him and not Jesus who left me. I came to him for help on a regular basis and he decided to cut off with my loving and devoted heart while Jesus is here still today to listen to me, to cry with me, to hug me strong against His heart of perfect Husband.
This is why I encourage you to run into His perfect and strong arms instead of looking for human help.
And He actually encourages you to do it, girls! Yep, He does right here, in this bunch of verses below 🙂
1 Peter 5:7
Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.
Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
The Lord your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing.
Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.
These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers all over the world, but your Father already knows your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and he will give you everything you need. “So don’t be afraid, little flock. For it gives your Father great happiness to give you the Kingdom.”
He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”
The name of the LORD is a strong tower; The righteous runs into it and is safe.
God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.
I will say to the LORD, « My refuge and my fortress, My God, in whom I trust! »
« The eternal God is a dwelling place, and underneath are the everlasting arms; And He drove out the enemy from before you, And said, ‘Destroy!’
O LORD, my strength and my stronghold, and my refuge in the day of distress […]
The LORD is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer, My God, my rock, in whom I take refuge; My shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold.
Give your burdens to the Lord, and he will take care of you. He will not permit the godly to slip and fall.
Commit everything you do to the Lord. Trust him, and he will help you.
But when I am afraid, I will put my trust in you. I praise God for what he has promised. I trust in God, so why should I be afraid? What can mere mortals do to me?
The eyes of the Lord watch over those who do right; his ears are open to their cries for help.
So dear friend, press on. It is time to really get to know the best Guy in the universe, your lover: Jesus.
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