It was March. I was invited for lunch one day. My colleague’s mom is the sweetest person ever and as we were talking about life in general, she asked me if I was married. I proudly explained that I wasn’t yet but about to get married the coming summer to my American boboo (Yep…that was his sweet little nickname) 🙂

Her reply was quite interesting and brings me today to a deep reflection. She said “Oh! Well it’s time. You are 30 years old this year, dear. Indeed, it’s time for you to get married! At your age I already had a baby”

Alright, alright, alright… This very day, I surely can tell you that it wasn’t an issue at all to hear this. But what about today… How does my heart feel after a break up that looks like an earthquake of 10 on Richter scale in my life?

And you dear reader? How do you feel when someone keeps putting you in a certain box because of your age, your weight, your look, your job, your conviction, your culture, your family background etc…?

Even WE have the tendency of putting ourselves in a box.

I had great plans for my life. I always dreamed about getting married by 20 or 25. Having my first kid around 26 years old (like my mom). The second or third one not after 32, to make sure that I will be young enough to play with them and handle those little monsters without being too tired. Of course, in this amazing “homemade” plan, I would have the perfect part time job so that I can socialize myself enough but not too much and take care of my family. I would live in Europe but would have enough money to travel often as I just love this!

Today I am 30 years old… and all what I dreamed about for the past 10 years has never come to accomplishment. I am in the midst of a breaking up after my fiancé cancelled the wedding this summer, I have no first, second or even third kid, I am working full time and today, I have to pay the rent of my house in construction, what doesn’t help me now to travel more.

MARRIAGERY (no, it’s not even a word)… Where do I even consider myself at? I mean, I was about to become a wife and today, my heart still can’t feel like giving up on this deep heart’s desire but what else can I do?

SINGLERY (nope, either, it’s not a word but I just love speaking my own Frenglish)… What? –

But what if after all, it was what God wanted from me this year so that I can fully focus on Him? What if it is part of His great plan for me to fully enter in my destiny?

Dear reader, it is when I started to really think about this question that I understood that I can use this coming year fully for the purpose of growing in God and becoming the woman and wife to be He wants me to be. Nothing is more precious for me now than to obey my God and to let Him correct me (Hebrews 12:6) in order to be fully ready for my ministry.

All of us have a purpose on this earth and I decided to use this year of singleness to get in a deeper relationship with my Savior Jesus Christ.

Being single in a world where this is not the standard, is hard. But after all, which standard we stand for? I decided to stand for the “standard of God”. Doing His will and using everything He gives me in the best possible way.

And remember dear reader, God loves you no matter what. He loves you the way you are. Married or single, tall or small, having a job or non-employed. What defines you is your identity in Christ, nothing else. You are Children of God and you are loved!

John 1:12

Some, however, did receive him and believed in him; so he gave them the right to become God’s children.

John 3:16

For this is how God loved the world: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.

Kath Leen

There Is More Co.™

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